Let’s get one thing straight: people don’t care about you.
People don’t care if you’ve lost a pint of blood or your intestines are gummed up and fried from chemo; they don’t care about how many levels of hell you’ve been through and how terrible your childhood (or lack thereof) was. They will suck every last drop from your lesioned arteries, drain you dry of your essence without a moment’s hesitation.
They only care about themselves and what’s good for them.
Even if they appear to care about you, they’re really just concerned about what’s in it for them, what they can get out of the exchange at the end of it. Like studies have shown, doing charity and being nice to others gives you a dopamine rush, so it’s win-win!
Or they’re altruistic so their clan or next of kin will benefit and have a better life; they’re thinking one step ahead.
People don’t care about you. At the end of the day, everyone just looks out for themselves, directly or indirectly.
But unfortunately, we humans need one another. We still have to kind of work together to achieve some common goal or sense of bullshit civilisation.
Well, that’s a bummer.
So yes, if you want to get anywhere, you’ve got to hear people out, make them feel like you care about them. Just so you can have your way and live a little easier.
As much as you may try to avoid all human interaction (as many are wont to do this day and age, especially with this delightful thing called the internet), at some point you still have to go collect that parcel from the delivery person or wait for the security guard to scan you in.
So what do you do in a world where no one really cares?
Should you be fake? Should you pretend to care when deep down you just wish everyone would curl up and implode in a bright red ball of chunky splatter?
They only care about themselves and what’s good for them. And so should you.
Well, yeah. Care about yourself first. This isn’t some trick question!
And then if you have the attention and the energy, you can try caring about other people and what they’re doing.
I’ve realised that trying to be super nice and bending over backwards for others doesn’t really get you anywhere. I mean, still be nice and polite by all means, but have the guts to draw the line somewhere.
Don’t be nice and polite just for the sake of being nice and polite. Get something out of the exchange! That’s the secret.
If everyone else is getting dopamine rushes except for yourself, then buddy you’re not playing the game right.
So start caring about yourself first. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s the right thing to do.
Because honestly, nobody cares about you so you might as well start caring for yourself.
I’m reminded of an Avril song. Just change the word “home” to “cares”. Still just as emo.
Nobody cares, dude.